I get off on people watching me. The only way I can masturbate recently is to do it on webcam in an adult chatroom. Is this weird?

SamK2323 · 2012-05-26T02:30:54.320877+00:00

You get off to people watching you and they probably get off to watching you. Win-win in my book. The lovely relationship of voyeur/exhibitionist.

Br4ndNew · 2012-05-26T02:28:52.465619+00:00

The geeks I know would fuck anything with a pulse and a vagina (of the same species). That said, 50%+ won't ruin a good friendship for sex.

INDEX-OUT-OF-BOUNDS · 2012-05-26T02:23:37.787588+00:00

Your second point is completely valid and should be a legitimate concern. Some people do not put enough weight on sexual compatibility and the effect it has on a relationship. The two of you also sound like you haven't done anything sexual. It's hard to tell if you will click well now, or in the future.

Takethisandshoveit · 2012-05-26T01:02:25.097948+00:00

As someone who had (probably still, has) the same fantasy, really talk it through with all your expectations, doubts, fears laid out. My partner knows that I'm interested in being slipped a date rape drug (or ambien, likely ambien) and let him have his way with me. However, after talking about it, I understand his apprehension to doing it. There are so many variables that you cannot account for, so many actions that she won't know she's okay with until after the fact, and so many things that could go wrong (legally, medically) -- especially if the two of you have never acted out a rape fantasy before. Then the both of you have to consider if it's worth living out the fantasy if there's no recollection of it. How will she feel that she had no say in anything? How would you feel fucking a just her body? It sounds hot in theory but really think it through before proceeding. Start slow and as you two progress, decide if this is something you want to proceed with.

beccabeast93 · 2012-05-26T00:51:16.010114+00:00

This is a horrible mentality. If you keep faking it, he's going to think what he's doing is working for you. Instead, spend time exploring your body and discover what touch gets you going. Try incorporating toys as well. You need to understand your body to make it easier to teach someone else what brings you to orgasm.

imonfire · 2012-05-26T00:45:28.205711+00:00

Love/hate relationship with this. It feels great and all but one wrong bump and my clit is screaming STOP! Just the way our bodies line up I guess.

jesuisperdu · 2012-05-26T00:41:09.325667+00:00

Acne and hemorrhoids are not the same thing! And not all baby wipes are made the same. Sounds gimmicky but opting for sensitive skin w/ aloe makes a difference.

Tzeentch99 · 2 days

If she's not comfortable with it, there's no forcing it. Try finding out why she is against anal play without putting pressure on her to try it. See it from her perspective and respect her boundaries. She may come around to it one of these days but that's really up to her.

ohtellmewhy · 2 days

http://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/u0b89/you_cant_pop_your_cherry_hymen_101_i_wish_i_knew/

notquiteenough · 2 days

Honestly? You need to look up studies on average penile girth. The range seems to be between 4.7-5, which means you're not far off particularly if she's already pretty tight. Stop comparing yourself to sex toys and/or porn stars and talk to your partner to see what you can do in the bedroom to improve the experience! But if she wants sex regularly, it probably means that nothing is wrong and it's in your head!

z0mgitsathrowaway · 2 days

Whatever the definition though you had and may still have insecurities that may never get truly fixed or may pop up again if your current relationship was to end.

It's like saying an addict is always going to be an addict. People change, learn, and grow from their experiences and most strive to be better. I understand that your preference isn't towards someone with a high number of sexual partners but it almost sounds like you see people with high numbers as lower than yourself.

ilikedessert · 2 days

And more graceful too...

Polariz · 2 days

Same here! I won't even let zippers near my pole!

z0mgitsathrowaway · 3 days

Finding it "rather icky" and questioning a person's mental stability/sanity are completely different. It's rather close-minded, don't you think, to immediately put someone in a box just by the number of sexual partner's they have? Rather than immediately judging someone by how many people they've slept with, it's important to find out why you do so lest your mental capacity be questioned.

HotPersonIKnow · 3 days

Really depends on the effects your looking for. As with vaginal sex, silicone-based lubes will offer a smoother more long lasting effect but can be difficult to clean off. A water-based lube will more than likely require reapplication/rehydration and a thicker formula will be needed. Shop around, test a few lubes and find one that works for you. If condoms are not a worry, natural oils work well too. Coconut oil will work just fine but as with silicone based lubes will be harder to clean up! Everyone will have their preference and say that it's better than others but you won't know until you try it out for yourself.

HotPersonIKnow · 3 days

It's funny that high quality water-based lubricants are used in a way to describe astroglide and KY which are basically the cheapest water-based lubes out there.

SeaCandiesTroy · 3 days

Some doctors fear that a woman who has never had children will have an increase risk of expelling the device. It would be a good idea to talk to your doctor about the risks you may encounter. Some doctors may refuse to insert one in a woman who has never had children but most will advise you of the risk, reassure you of the success, and really educate you on the facts.

DoinTheDirty · 3 days

Definitely! I love playing with it and making it grow. I love feeling it in my mouth as I suck on it.

MtnDewGuy27 · 3 days

What do you find sexy on a woman? Start there.

POLITE_ALL_CATS_GUY · 3 days

Nothing your mother has to say will hold up in a court of law but her actions are undeniably crazy. It could be her way of coping with the fact that her son is all grown up but she's being unreasonable. Even if she brings your gf's parents into this, there's nothing more that they can do to you than keep the two of you apart. If you see your gf's parents as reasonable people, it'll likely be better that they hear it from you than a irrational woman.

mufasa27 · 3 days

Check out this guide from PP to help her choose the method that's best for her. A copper IUD may also be a good option, if the reason she's opposed to the Mirena is due to hormones. Honestly though, hormonal birth control methods have the highest efficacy rate and have many benefits as well. Although some women go through horrible side effects, finding the right method and dosage won't lead to that.

solpic · 3 days

For me, it's the idea that I'm letting someone put a part of their body inside of mine. It takes a lot of trust to know that they're not going to take advantage of that. There's also a much higher risk being a sexually active woman than a sexually active man. You have to trust that they'll put as much weight on contraceptives and STD prevention as you. You have to put the trust of your health and body in someone else's hands.

Pez89 · 3 days

Wow, this sure was a thought provoking self-post.

rocklette35 · 3 days

If shaving, it's advisable to shave with the grain. If waxing, it is advisable to remove in the opposite direction of hair growth. Shapes make it impossible to follow either of these rules. Hair doesn't grow in the shape of hearts, stars, or horseshoes and removing hair in that pattern could lead to irritation and ingrown hairs.

dontknowwhattodoatal · 3 days

after about 20 minutes of going at it she was getting dry

That's fine, you could always use lube. It's a great tool for sex, even for people who produce plenty of lubrication. It could also increase sensation and create more of a gliding feeling.

Maybe I desensitized everything down there too much?

This is a possibility especially if you masturbate with a very tight grip. If you always masturbate the same way, it's possible that you've trained your body to need a certain kind of touch/grip to reach orgasm. Just change it up from time to time and don't grip too tightly.

Is this somewhat normal or at least not a significant problem?

Yes and yes. Sex isn't about orgasm. Sex is about pleasuring your partner and receiving pleasure. Orgasm just happens to be a result of that pleasure. Not achieving orgasm shouldn't make sex any more or less enjoyable. Just take it for what it is and have fun with it!

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