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I'm thinking about online dating. Any advice? by DontUseThrowawaysin AskReddit

[–]deweyredman 0 points1 point ago

I've had mixed experience on it. I've used HOTorNOT and eHarmony (back in the day), and Plentyoffish and OkCupid recently. I'll speak mostly on OkCupid (it's the one I've used the most). There are four key things that will contribute to your success on OkCupid:

1) Your age

2) Your attractiveness

3) Your success relative to your peers

4) The effort you put into your profile

If one of these is off, it will probably affect your success a lot. I can't really help you with 1-3, so let's focus on 4.

Pictures: DOs: Smile in them. Take pictures where you're doing something you like are also a plus (e.g. running, comic con, sporting event). Taking pictures with friends is okay, as long as it's not excessive and it's clear who you are.

DON'Ts: Don't take your shirt off. Don't take pictures at the gym. I don't care how awesome your tattoo is, but don't post a picture of it. Taking pictures doing wine tasting/beer tasting may be alright, but you wasted/partying it up probably isn't a good idea. ABSOLUTELY NO MIRROR PICS. Seriously, I can't state this enough. Nothing screams "TOOL!" like a mirror pic. Bottom line is, avoid anything that makes you seem like a tool/douchebag in your pictures. For example, I ride a motorcycle. You won't, however, see me on it in any of my dating website profile pictures.

The rest of your profile: Be yourself. Spell correctly and use good grammar. Be unique, and specific about what you want. Be confident. That's pretty much it in a nutshell. Oh, avoid putting your income down. It screams "douchebag", and will only succeed in getting you gold diggers/putting off people that think you're conceited/full of yourself. Your job title should be enough.

Now you've got a good profile, and you're set to go! Like I said before, there are 4 things that will really affect your success. A good rule of thumb is that you need to be a good 3-4 years older than your target demographic before you start seeing real success (obviously there are outliers, but in my experience and in the experience of my friends, this has been the case, at least for younger girls). If you're in college, you probably don't need to be doing online dating(and probably won't have that much success on it, unless you're very attractive), but it's sometimes interesting to see the responses you'll get (in my experience it was mostly from girls who weren't in college). Once you're out of college (23-25 ish), unless you're super successful for your age or once again, really good looking, you might not experience a great deal of success. Reasoning: girls younger than you are in college and are dating other guys in college and girls around your age are dating older guys for the most part. If you want to date girls your age I suggest you maintain a network of friends from college/meet other guys your age and have them introduce you to girls. If you don't have friends, join meetup groups online. Also, meeting younger girls who aren't necessarily in college is also a possibility (although they sometimes go for the college guys, too). After you hit 26-27, you're pretty much home free.

Now, you've got one (or more) dates! Now what? If you've met someone online, and they're at least fairly attractive, on the first date it's pretty safe to assume you're not the only person they're dating (after the fourth or fifth date, this may change). Be prepared to answer the "why are you on <dating site>?" question. IT gets asked 75-80% of the time on the first dates I've been on. Also, be sure you have at least a good idea about what was on their profile. If their profile states several times about their love for teaching, and one of the first questions you ask is "...so what do you do?", you haven't gotten off to a good start. Be sure to find common ground, and LISTEN, LISTEN, LISTEN. Women love to be listened to. Find something they love, and just let them talk about it. In the end, just be yourself. If it works, it works, if it doesn't, it doesn't. Also, if you're dating multiple women at the same time, be sensitive to their feelings and if it starts getting serious with one, tell the other(s) the truth. To prevent this from happening, if I'm going on dates with multiple girls, I'll usually try to make a decision fairly quickly before it gets serious so that I won't string anyone along. I really hope this helps, and best of luck!

EDIT: I realize that it may come across like I'm saying motorcycle riders are douchebags (I'm not) but I'd rather spring that on someone after I've met them, than give them the chance to nix me based on that alone.

Say there is a Hell. What is your idea of eternal damnation? by jesuswigin AskReddit

[–]deweyredman -1 points0 points ago

Stuck on an endless road trip and Justin Bieber is playing on the radio on repeat.

If you were put in charge of trimming Earth's human population down to 3 billion or so, what would your criteria be for who stays and who goes? by Clayburnin AskReddit

[–]deweyredman -1 points0 points ago

1) People in jail for violent crimes

2) Terrorist groups/dictators

3) terminally ill

4) 98% of those with diseases for which there are no cure

5) Lottery for senior citizens

[UPDATE] 28/M in crisis: My fiance is abusive - is there hope? by so_confused_in relationships

[–]deweyredman 1 point2 points ago

I went through the same thing last year. Trust me, it DOES get better. I'm sure she will try and guilt you because you didn't leave on HER terms (that's what happened to me), but just move forward. The first few months will be hard, but time heals all wounds.

The thing that is crazy about BPD is that it rarely manifests itself unless some sort of argument/conflict comes along, and then some weir switch just flips. There may be a time when she'll get over everything, but odds are that won't happen until/unless she finds someone else. Good luck :)

I couldn't stay mad... by sugarwaterprpl3in AdviceAnimals

[–]deweyredman -1 points0 points ago

Brazil rocked by abortion for 9-year-old rape victim: Church excommunicates mother and doctors – but not accused rapist by pretzelzetzelin atheism

[–]deweyredman 10 points11 points ago

Brazilian here. I was all like hmm interesting until I read "President Lula..." (He hasn't been in office for about a year and a half).

Ladies, Don't Let Crazy Stick His Dick in You by Squalor-in AdviceAnimals

[–]deweyredman 0 points1 point ago

Wouldn't surprise me if the writers threw us a curveball and she was the mother anyway.

Celebrities and their stunt doubles by citidelain pics

[–]deweyredman 0 points1 point ago

This is what I immediately thought upon going into this thread. It's amazing how many times I think of something that isn't painfully obvious and BOOM, someone's already said it on Reddit.

When I was a kid, I witnessed a woman burn herself to death. What is the most shocking/terrifying/traumatic thing you experienced? by laksaloverin AskReddit

[–]deweyredman 1 point2 points ago

I was coming home for winter break during college a while ago and I was on the way back home from the airport. I'm traveling on the Merritt Parkway in CT, and it's very dark. As I was dozing off in the back seat I heard a SMASH and saw the windshield crack and as my stepdad struggled to gain control of the car, my life flashed before my eyes. We finally stopped, and got out of the car. My Mom thought it was a deer, but my stepdad was exclaiming "No, it's a person! I hit a person!" The cops came a few minutes later, and as it turns out, it WAS in fact, a person.

She was 28 years old, and she intentionally jumped out in front of our car to commit suicide(she left a note in a nearby vehicle). I was sad and pissed off at the same time, because yes, she died, but throwing yourself out in the middle of traffic not only injures yourself, but has the possibility to injure others. I'm glad I didn't actually see her face or her body (I was dozing off in the back seat), but it's still the most horrifying thing I've ever experienced.

Hey, /r/motorcycles. What tires do you recommend I should get for my '07 650r? I mostly do weekend rides (mountains, etc), and I rarely commute. Money isn't an issue at all. by deweyredmanin motorcycles

[–]deweyredman[S] 0 points1 point ago

I'm afraid if my riding habits change and I have super sticky tires that they may wear too quickly...What do you think?

Hey, /r/motorcycles. What tires do you recommend I should get for my '07 650r? I mostly do weekend rides (mountains, etc), and I rarely commute. Money isn't an issue at all. by deweyredmanin motorcycles

[–]deweyredman[S] 0 points1 point ago

I was looking at the power pure tires, but my friend convinced me to do a little more research on tires before just springing for them. I'm in Silicon Valley, if it makes any difference for understanding my road conditions (I live in Santa Clara, and I've ridden down highway 9, calaveras rd, uvas canyon, and hwy 1 soon). I'm really hesitant to buy something super sticky because I'm afraid it might wear a little too quickly if my riding habits change...

Hey, /r/motorcycles. What tires do you recommend I should get for my '07 650r? I mostly do weekend rides (mountains, etc), and I rarely commute. Money isn't an issue at all. by deweyredmanin motorcycles

[–]deweyredman[S] 0 points1 point ago

See, that's what I'm worried about...to get to the mountains there are a fair amount of freeway riding that I have to do that is pretty straight...

If a law passed requiring an iq/lifeskills test in order to procreate would you vote for it? by MastodonMetalin AskReddit

[–]deweyredman 0 points1 point ago

Depends, do both parents have to pass, or one?

DAE go to a four year university and not have sex? by itdeffwasmein DoesAnybodyElse

[–]deweyredman -1 points0 points ago

Yup, I did it for 5. Wasn't terribly bad. As far as what NiccoloDaVinci said:

a) not social at all, b) very selective, c) don't initiate sex with somebody who's obviously willing, d)not very attractive or e) two or more of the above.

I would just say c) and maybe b). I was very social and college, and I'm at least moderately attractive (stalk away if you want). I did it for a multitude of reasons, and have absolutely no regrets.

Abort! Abort! by sweetestshampooin pics

[–]deweyredman 0 points1 point ago

I refuse to believe this isn't a joke.

How I felt, as a black guy, watching Joel Ward score the winning goal in the Bruins v Capitals playoff series by deweyredmanin funny

[–]deweyredman[S] 0 points1 point ago

Hey, at least you made it to game 7 and you WON last year! Now the Sharks on the other hand...sigh

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