I am a woman in a completely submissive relationship, not just in bed. AMA

completesub · 2 years

I do believe you started the language war by saying "English is english" and claiming that your definition of submissive is the only correct one.

Is someone a little bitter that they were proven wrong?

Temper, temper.

completesub · 2 years

Perhaps the issue is that you keep saying that I am not A submissive. I am a WOMAN who happens to BE submissive and in a submissive relationship.

http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/submissive

or

http://www.submissivewife.org/

Someone understands English (me) and someone (you) uses a slang term that they claim only THEIR group can use to describe themselves. Sorry this makes you angry and that you don't really grasp the nuances of language, or grasp that your own preconceived notions are just as bigoted as other people who you seem to hate so much.

completesub · 2 years

No, I'm sorry. The bit about your mother being a whore was a poor joke.

Not stupid at all...I think some people get so fixated on the whole "she'll do anything he says" that they forget that there is a lot of time when I'm just me, he is just him, and we're laughing and talking and the power dynamic doesn't come into play.

No reason to be sorry.

But your mother IS a whore.

completesub · 2 years

Honestly, I think you should just ask her. I could see myself being very much like your wife before this. And hopefully if you guys are married, you can be a little more comfortable talking openly than some others.

If nothing else, in my mind, communication is always a wonderful thing. And I bet if she is that passive, she will adore it if you start taking the reins.

completesub · 2 years

I'm not confused in the slightest. I am not a BDSM/Leather subculture person, and I have stated that equivocally several times. I have said over and over that this is not a game; this is my day to day life with a man I love and adore.

Just because my role in my relationship as submissive to my partner isn't the same as the way your culture defines "submissives" does not make it any less valid.

Your comment that is so laden with judgement makes me wonder why you think you are any different from the "fundamentalist pigs" that you are deriding.

This works for me, and it works for us. I am sorry if somehow that offends you.

completesub · 2 years

Someone provided one earlier that was important in the beginning of my relationship, http://www.takeninhand.com/

completesub · 2 years

We have discussed it, and right now we do not think children are in the cards. We may change our minds, and if we do we would need to reexamine our relationship.

completesub · 2 years

If you have a dog that can talk to you, laugh with you and call your boss a motherfucker while sympathizing with you, I'm not you sure you DO need lady.

And I didn't call you fat.

I said your mother was a whore. Read it again.

completesub · 2 years

The sort of people who talk about a woman belonging to a man, where she has no real decision making role, or where the woman submits to spankings...those are people who are derided by society and made fun of. They are our grandparents and great grandparents who still call people "niggers."

It is not acceptable for a modern, liberal woman to want to want to be in a relationship like this.

completesub · 2 years

According to some, it is. Some, it isn't.

completesub · 2 years

He doesn't need to, but it is part of our relationship.

I agree that you have limited information, but I also agree that no one knows what will happen in 10 years. Could be divorced, could be just as happy as we are today.

completesub · 2 years

No, but we have most of the same fairly liberal political views.

completesub · 2 years

I'm not sure what you're asking. I don't think I am "better" than any random woman. I'm not going to post a list of my best traits, but I think the answer is that most people are different and set apart from other in a million tiny ways.

If you are comparing me to a dog because I am submissive and follow his orders, I'm not sure you've been in a relationship before. It is not all decisions or choices, it is not even mostly that. It is discussion and laughter and sharing your day with someone and comforting and loving them.

I suspect that you're of the midset that that answer won't do for you, and that's ok.

completesub · 2 years

I don't. He shows his dominance in many ways, one of which is the bedroom. And honestly it is mostly about pleasing him and making sure he's happy....and that is being accomplished easily now, which both of us are extremely happy about.

completesub · 2 years

Well, we are quite kinky, but that's not what I wanted to focus on in this post.

Part of what I wanted to emphasize is that in certain arenas, this is far more taboo than real kink.

completesub · 2 years

Thank you :)

completesub · 2 years

I'm glad you think so :) Your sentence about caring about his wants is kind of the point...I don't care about the little things in life as much as I care about him and want to make him happy.

completesub · 2 years

Both of parents were fine, they were around enough, but they had issue with one another and I did not see a lot of love in the household.

completesub · 2 years

I'm not sure I get the distinction. He is the relationship. I yield to him.

completesub · 2 years

I actually don't discuss it much with other people in my life.

completesub · 2 years

Exactly. It is a responsibility, and not all fun and game all the time.

completesub · 2 years

No, he doesn't.

completesub · 2 years

Yes, a nice one. I was just joking.

completesub · 2 years

Yes. The distinction between lifestyle and fetish is exactly the difference. Thanks :)

completesub · 2 years

Yes. I loved that movie. But the physical discomfort just for his entertainment is not something we engage in.

completesub

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