I lost my virginity late (29). She was younger than me, but more experienced. She intimated to me that she wanted to sleep with me on the first day we were together as a couple. I was afraid of pushing her too fast and losing her. We had been dating for a week before we were officially a couple. We didn't sleep with each other the second day we were together either. We had only made out by this point.

On the third day together, while making out in the kitchen of her house, I calmly and coolly told her, "If you ever want to go beyond kissing, let me know." She replied, "Do you want to see my bedroom?" I was thinking, "Absolutely! Definitely! Yes!", but I calmly answered, "Yes." We went up to her bedroom, talked and started kissing and undressing each other. Once we were completely naked, I paused and asked her if she wanted to go all the way. She said that she did and we had sex.

I would recommend learning to properly wear a condom when you do finally have sex. It's much less expensive than Plan B and takes the burden of birth control off of her (a lot of girls, especially when they are young, might be afraid of asking you to use a condom.)

More importantly, don't be in a hurry. I was more than twice your age when I lost my virginity. While I don't recommend waiting until 29, 14 is too young to start, in my opinion. Wait until both you and your partner are sure.

As for how to make it better for your partner, learn how to perform oral properly and, most importantly, communicate with her. Find out what she likes and doesn't like and tell her likewise about yourself. Knowing both how to please each other and each other's limits are paramount.