My fiance wants to be gangbanged

Grackal · 3 months

Vanilla sex to getting gang banged by a bunch of black guys? I think she missed out a few steps of the 'let's tell each other our fantasies, gently' process. You would expect a bit of light bondage, porn watching and ice cubes before going for the whole interracial cuckold humiliation orgy thing. But maybe I am a too cautious judging by all the 'go for it dude' replies.

ceej93 · 3 months

personally, i can't think of anything that would piss me off more than having to watch someone else, let alone several others, fuck the shit out of the women i loved while i watched. Sounds like a fuckin nightmare to me man. Still, thats just my opinion

Maxxters · 3 months

Talk it out with her. Let her know about your conflicting emotions so she can understand what page you're on. Then she can clarify why it is that she wants this and why she wants you there. Don't even think about actually playing out the fantasy in real life any time soon. That's ages from now. What you do now is talk about it and work towards getting comfortable and turned on completely by the idea. Then you add it to your fantasy play with just the two of you (talking about how you want to see her sucking on a big fat black dick while you're pounding into her, etc) until you both feel totally ready and positive about going ahead with the experience. Be honest with your feelings, set up any "rules" that you both feel like you need and then have fun with it if it gets to that point!

countingthedays · 3 months

Terrible idea. If you're not 100% interested in going with this, you'll regret it later.

mc57127 · 3 months

That'll be a great story to tell the grand kids one day.

photogc · 3 months

This is for sure one of those situations where you went into this thinking you could add some seasoning to your relationship cookbook, and instead your wife ordered a meal off of a menu from some foreign land that you don't know how to read the language from.

This is a fantasy that's dangerous in a lot of ways. Aside from finding willing participants that are safe and respectful, there's a load of pitfalls for the couple in question. For one, if you've never even included a 'third' into the scenario it's going to be hard to handle a group of them. Also, she's your fiance. If this was a girl you were dating, but not particularly planning on spending your life with, then as long as you felt comfortable you could go for it. There are a ton of negative ways this could go down if you go in with even the smallest bit of hesitation; all of a sudden you could get cold feet but are too intimidated to stop it so you go through with it on the day, or worse she does despite you asking to stop, or you say nothing to not embarrass her or you and just think you'll get into it, or everything goes well when she's fooling around with them, but then they penetrate her and suddenly you get a jealous pang, or everything is fine while they are kissing, but suddenly she kisses you, or everything is great while you have your dick in hand and then when you cum, and they cum instead it's just a huge regret.

Or, you could go in there, see some really wild gangbang action, help her get cleaned up and cuddle her after.

There's a huge leap from one set of consequences to another. And you really, really, really need to talk out this entire fantasy. And sometimes, some fantasies need to stay fantasies. There's tons of ways you can recreate this as well without involving others. Get a ton of dildo's and blindfold her. Put on a porn from brazzers or xtube that is of a gangbang and cover her ears with headphones. (Look into cuckolding videos too for audio.) Set up a contraption of sorts. It could be wild without actually involving anyone. With some suction cups and such you could really make it feel like other bodies.

It's an easy way to slowly go up to it. Or just simple dirty talk in the moment. If after you cum you have regrets than I think it's fair to be honest with her about it. If this is something she has to do, then you might need to rethink marriage right away.

And you for sure should NOT get married then try this. It should be done before any huge commitments.

Good luck with this man. This is a pretty huge fantasy to get put in. But after reading some of your comments, you seem to be bit of a cuck yourself. Mentioning that it does turn you on. For the majority of guys imagining their lady getting banged by a ton of guys is an immediate no. The fact you think it's hot makes you already half way there.

However, just because that's the fantasy doesn't mean you shouldn't take babysteps. Slowly go up. Start perhaps with a normal convo, then graduate to dirty talk, continue to the possible toy idea I mentioned above, then maybe if all is good invite one guy into the bedroom and the three of you play together, then in the moment if you're digging it, sit back and watch. After that graduate to the multiple partners and you involved, then... the gangbang!

Again, goodluck. I'm pretty GGG but would have a hard time fulfilling my girl's fantasy if this was hers. To be honest, I don't think I could. But I'd do my best to try and give her the next best thing.

ShaneMBerney · 3 months

JoseFernandes · 3 months

When something reads like cuckold erotica it usually is.

cantonista · 3 months

I can't believe people are responding to this like it's a serious question. This is clearly a guy with a cuckold fetish who wants to hear other people talk about it. There is no fiance, or if there is, she's not the one who brought up the gangbang idea.

wawaeatfresh · 3 months

Are you sure she's not trolling you?

wildpeaches · 3 months

Sometimes I have very exaggerated fantasies. And, they are just that, fantasies...harmless.

Desires. Those are an entirely different animal. If your wife is really feeling the desires lf being gangbanged, keep communication going. Maybe do some sex play where she's blindfolded and you touch her and have sex with her only to pull away and them return again. She can pretend you're different men.

Just a thought. Hope you keep exploring.

silverscreemer · 3 months

Holy shit. What a bombshell.

I don't have any advice to give, just wanted to let you know I share in your befuddlement.

I_Miss_Scrubs · 3 months

Consider me conservative, but I'd be hugely offended if my gf wanted to get gangbanged. I don't see the attractiveness there. But to each their own. Happy sexing!

PoseidonsDick · 3 months

Just to add a dissenting opinion about the whole black/big dick thing:

I am a happily married female. My husband and I were talking about our pornographic preferences today. It's not all the time, but sometimes I enjoy watching black dude fucking tiny white girl porn. I can safely say it has nothing to do with the dick because my husband is very well-endowed (to the point of pain sometimes!). The whole black dude porn turning me on thing is just because black dudes can be hot! It really has nothing to do with my husband, or his dong.

Don't get me wrong, I don't know your fiance and maybe it does have something to do with dicks, but there's a pretty good chance that she just digs the idea of doing black dudes rather than it being anything about dicks.

emwbiogeek22 · 3 months

In my personal opinion, I think it's normal and healthy to have fantasies, but that doesn't mean that they have to be acted on. You are in way to serious of a relationship with this person to handle watching her get fucked by a bunch of other men. If she wanted to get gang banged, she should have done that before she became committed to you. She needs to just accept it for what it is, a fantasy and nothing more.

lananaroux · 3 months

I don't even know a whole group of black guys.

solinv · 3 months

First off, Maxxters advice is really good.

Second, if you're not 110% comfortable with it, a good way to act it out is to get a bunch of dildos, secure them around the bed (so they're surrounding her and maybe one is penetrating her) then fuck her.

StoicMeerkat · 3 months

see if you can work in an orgy with a bunch of girls while she watches. civil rights!

genericuser1289 · 3 months

If you're a real man you'll listen to the part of your brain that feels humiliated, if you're a pussy who wants to be taken advantage of and ruin your girl's image of you listen to the part that feels turned on.

callmegoat · 3 months

You can't hold it against her, considering you inquired about her interests. Sit down and talk with her, see how interested and serious she is. If it's something she really wants, as a lover you should be willing to accommodate her, however she should be willing to compromise on details as well. You say it turns you on, but there could be two very distinct reasons for that. Are you turned on by the thought of sharing her, or are you turned on by the humiliation aspect? If it's the former, consider telling her you want to be an active part of said gangbang, if it's the latter, then figure out if it's something you'd actually want.

quiettimes · 3 months

You don't seem comfortable with this, almost like you're trying to talk yourself into it. If so, That's not a good way to enter into this and most likely would lead to resentment later.

quickie_ss · 3 months

This was pretty easy to fap to.

hedobot · 3 months

Here's my two cents...I say, don't do it bro...If you are having second thoughts about it now, they will only multiply and leave you in a state of bitterness if you let her go through with it. You love this woman, right? How can you even entertain the idea that you'll be able to watch her banged by a couple of black dudes(let alone any other dude for that matter)? I think it will crush you emotionally... What if she wants to do it again? What if you are even ashamed to look at her after such a thing? Think wisely my friend...very wisely.

PeterCHayward · 3 months

Whatever happens, make sure you come back and let us know!

rivermandan · 3 months

" Also, the fact that she specified "black" guys implies she's looking for big dicks"

umm, that isn't actually true, yeah, some black guys have enormous dicks, but so does every race

iLove_JennyTalia · 3 months

its a shit test. no real man would allow this to happen. it devalues you to the lowest level imaginable, to the point where i doubt your relationship would be able to survive such an event due to the mutual residual feelings of guilt, shame and anger.

tell her how you really feel about this. dont sacrifice your manhood for a womans pleasure, unless you get something out of this yourself. for instance she has to watch you fuck the same number of black chicks, or something.

TNAgent · 3 months

I think you've stepped into the minefield that is mojoupgrade but you didn't make it out the other side. There are a lot of things on there I find intriging but the mine you've stepped on is one of the reasons I don't ever see myself doing the test with my SO.

If she said she wanted to be done by 5 black guys while I watched the only possible response I could foresee would be GTFO.

abadgaem · 3 months

/r/cuckold and /r/hotwife

Just in case you want to do some research.

ghostofanimus · 3 months

Fantasy does not equal reality.

Do your homework.

youni89 · 3 months

hmm ok... wait. wat. WAT. WAT THE SHIT?!

SexyShenanigans · 3 months

On the other hand, I would be lying if I said the whole idea of seeing her being ravaged by a group of guys didn't turn me on a bit. The racial aspect also seems to add a bit of spice to the whole thing.

This is good to hear. It means your kinks line up, and if you can get past some societal conditioning, you and she may be able to enjoy a good, exciting time .

So Reddit - advice is needed! My fiance was good enough to talk to me about this shit before doing anything...but now I don't know what to do with the information and I don't know which side of my brain to listen to. The part that feels humiliated and degraded, or the part that feels a bit turned on.

First things first. Make it clear that you appreciate that she was willing to open up to you about a fantasy. It sounds like this took a lot of guts for her to do. Make sure she knows that you want to pursue some of her fantasies with her, but that you'll need some time to wrap your head around it, and that you want to explore safe ways to do what she wants.

Tell her too, that you are also turned on by this idea. This will not only validate her but help her feel the sincerity in your appreciation.

Then explain the negative emotions you felt. Ask her if there are any other fantasies she nervous about bringing up for fear of negative connotations. Get it all out in the open while communication is still golden.

Then, be willing to negotiate. I don't blame you for feeling inadequate, but boredom is not where such gang banger fantasies originate from. try to pinpoint with her exactly what it is aobu6t this fantasy that gets her going, and then discuss ways the two of you could simulate that. Is it the force? The exotic person? Be as open as possible, and encourage her to do the same.

I'd encourage you and your fiancee check out some of the kinkier communities on reddit--bdsmcommunity is a good place to start, if only because we are very welcoming as well as creative.

lbchdrdr · 3 months

It's entirely possible that she's fucking with you. She might just want to see how you'll react to something that seems so out of left field. So you should do what Maxxters said, you pretty much can't go wrong with that approach.

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allmyblackclothes · 3 months

Agree with everyone on "black dudes doesn't mean big dicks." My favorite citation: According to one of the directors for Blacks on Blondes (a relevant website), "Black dudes, as a whole, are not any larger than white dudes." http://www.ishootporn.com/128/penis-smaller-than-5-inches/

VileDevastation · 3 months

I'd say no, but I have problems with sharing.

okcupiddom · 3 months

My fiance and I have just taken up group sex. We are trying to get a gangbang together for our wedding night. I was worried I would have some pangs of jealousy seeing her with another guy, but I have none.

Whatever you do I wish you well.

tim50kg · 3 months

I'm old school as hell, screw that shit, I'd tell her to gtfo, been with my fiance for 7 years, turns 8 years in March, same as our sex life, pretty basic with positions and foreplay, sounds just like us, but we both like it, if she came to me with that, I would not even think about it, I would tell her to gtfo and not even think twice, some stupid shit like that. I'm only 22 and my girl has been my only girl, that shit is crazy and totally fucking stupid. I might be the only one to say this but I had to say something since it sounded almost like my relationship.....fuck that, tell her hell no and leave......

thebardingreen · 3 months

We have this belief we grow up with in our culture that if our lovers are attracted to other people it means they don't want us/we're not enough.

All you have to do is look at your own psychology to realize this is a complete fallacy. And leads you to make decisions based on beliefs that are just plain wrong. But we often won't even consider that they might be long enough to realize what we're doing.

Second, we sort of take it for granted that we get to (often kindly and reasonably) blackmail our lovers "No dick but mine will go in you" with the understanding being that the relationship would be over if it did.

But why is that rule necessary? Is it?

I can't answer those questions for you. But I naturally am inclined in very much the opposite direction from them and I sort of resent society shoving them down my throat all the time.

That's why I hang out on /r/polyamory. XD

EllieTuttle · 3 months

It sounds like you're interested. I understand that fantasies can be uncomfortable/humiliating to think about sometimes, but if you think you'd enjoy it, then what's the problem?

Cptn_Janeway · 3 months

How would you feel about it after it happened? Can you imagine how you would feel towards her and yourself? If you are truly okay with it, then go for it. If there is ANY doubt I say don't do it and you guys need to talk this out.

Though as a black male, it feels like I just let down my fellow brothers.

Oh-god · 3 months

It's not her fault she has this fantasy, please don't take it too personal. Probably took guts for her to admit it. Doesn't mean anything is wrong with you.

jggm2009 · 3 months

How is it clear she is waiting for an answer? Is she like "And...?" or what? LOL. Tell her that is not what you had in mind. Yes, I am turned on by this fantasy as well. My wife gets off on that. I'm not ready for all of that but I'm not opposed to it either. Dude its just a fantasy unless both of you decide differently. Its more about sharing the experience as a couple unless those other naughty feelings surface. . If your woman loves you, enjoys being with you, respects you and you guys are in love it could work.

thekadar81 · 3 months

If you decidento go for this, maybe start small to test the waters. Start with a MFM threesome or just watch her fuck another guy. See how that affects the relationship.

manolito62 · 3 months

first thing you will listen from reddit after the "party" is done: "pics or did not happen?"

nooseream · 3 months

Things like this are better left to fantasy I think. Once you let the genie out of the bottle, you won't be able to put it back in. As another in this thread said, once you're not horny anymore your decision making might change as you'll have to live with your fiance for the rest of your life with the knowledge she did it since you seem to be uncomfortable with it. However, since you're posting on here you seem a little adventurous so really its up to you. Ultimately we can only advise - and remember that the posters here dont have to live with your life decision; you do.

LokiTheFerret · 3 months

All in all i think you should focus on the fact she wants you to be there. No matter how much you trust her, she very well could have walked into a black bar and asked several black guys to take her out back and rail her. SHE COULD HAVE could have but she made it a point to ask you to be there.Which A. means she wants you to see to humiliate you (far easyer done with a camera and the suddeness of it would make it worse then you being there) or B. she like the idea of being used but your approval and presence is what makes it hot.

I would say talk it over with her more, focus on what should happen if one of you decideds to end it. Thats an indicator, if she wants to end it the second you or her say no more then it about you not about them. If she wants you to leave if you dont like it then its not about you and you have to tell her you dont accept that.

Dont get me wrong i hate the whole "talk it out" option, but she is being open with you and you must not fault her for it or it will tell her you want her to lie. But if you cant stand it (I count in case you wanted to know where im comeing from) then you have to tell her, and remember it if she ever veto's a request from you.

Think balence. Because if someone isnt watching the scales then you or her will be feeling the effects without knowing how to fix it and it will ruin you.

P.S. she may have "Said" black guys but that doesnt mean big dicks. it means she wants a seperation from that and your normal sex life. If she is willing to request a gangbang then she is willing to request big dicks plain and simple, but you could ask her to present her case on Reddit as well and it would make being open easyer for her.

sosueme · 3 months

http://imgur.com/cKjI5

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PunoSuerte · 3 months

If you're fine with throwing away any idea that you'll have a monogamous relationship with her, go ahead. Different strokes for different folks.

LarStyle · 3 months

It's something worth exploring, but because it's with a significant other i'd be sure to choose people neither of you would ever associate with again after that one interaction for a variety of reasons-- through legal means or otherwise, depending on where you live and what you believe i suppose.

wynyx · 3 months

If I were you, I'd be tentatively willing to explore the idea, with two caveats: I would want to work up to it (starting with swinging and threesomes), and I would want to get as much as I gave (i.e., if she got gangbanged while I watched, I'd want her to help me pick up girls to play with).

I'm not saying you should do it, mind you. It's not a simple question.

koiboy · 3 months

56 comments an no-one has mentioned mandingos? http://www.vice.com/the-vice-guide-to-sex/mandingo-trailer

swested · 3 months

Um...I'd say keep this one a fantasy for a while. It'll probably turn out better for all involved.

kingkaos69B · 3 months

Ok, I only want to say this to you: The fact the she wants black men doesn´t necesarily means she wants big dicks. Believe me, I LOVE black dudes but I DO NOT like big dicks. Maybe is the interracial component.

Lothrazar · 3 months

Ask around in /r/polyamory/

rybomf · 3 months

i think we can all agree on this

ICEFARMER · 3 months

And you've never had fantasies of multiple women At the same time? Huge breasted, goddesses of an insatiable nature? Fantasies are fantasies. You may have some that could make her feel uncomfortable. The extremes of what we can desire in our minds. It's rare that they come to fruition and even if they do it's rare that they turn out to be as good as the fantasy.

It seems like she may want to spice things up a bit. I wouldn't be down for my wife getting it from other dudes either but there are things you can definitely try to spice it up if you want. Tell her the multiple dude fantasy isn't something that can be done but you want to try do something to spice it up for her benefit. Try out new toys, role playing, etc. If she wants to try a multiple dude fantasy sans the other dude get some toys (dildos and vibrators,a Sybian would be awesome) that she can use/you can use on her while you have sex. You can change positions and BE the different dudes in the fantasy. It could be a lot of fun. You are the one man gang bang. (As for not being black, you can tan and dim the lights. I've got no other good one there.)

If you are worried abut the size of your dick don't be stupid. Only surgery can help there. It focus on upping your skills. Not just the way you fuck here but how well you can use your mouth and hands. If you can make her come multiple times before you stick your dick in you are in for a great time and so is she.

conjectureandhearsay · 3 months

Are you black? Is she? You never said. Well, you did say your sex life was vanilla, but still ...

[deleted] · 3 months

You only live once....my wife sleeps with other men and I would welcome her to have a gang bang. I dont get jealous about it I get massivley turned on. Its not for everyone,but maybe start small. Like a threesome or something.

monkeyvoodoo · 3 months

Just do it and get it over with. She wants to try it, and you're curious to see it. From here out, if you do it, it's done and you have a new topic of conversation for a bit, at the least. If you don't, you'll both wonder about it the rest of your lives.

callmegoat · 3 months

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