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Im sorry for all your losses but seriously just post your lost loved ones in r/rip. (self.self)

submitted ago* by slimkwik

between the dogs, cats, grandparents, great grandparents, aunts, uncles.... its out of control

*Edit: /r/inmemoryof would be a more suitable subreddit

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[–]anonymau5 23 points24 points ago

"Umm, yeah, if you could just post all death and death related content to /r/death, that'd be great..."

[–]scy1192 112 points113 points ago

Who subscribes to a subreddit where people only post that their loved ones have died? I mean, really...

[–]spielzebub 74 points75 points ago

If you're saying that nobody wants to hear about that kind of stuff, surely that's just the same as what OP is saying?

[–]ProfessorSomething 16 points17 points ago

I'd feel weird upvoting anything in that subreddit.

"Your dad died? Here's an upvote!"

[–]rolfv 3 points4 points ago

An "upvote" isn't the same as a "like" though.

[–]Fiercekiller 15 points16 points ago*

The same people who keep upvoting it?

[–]tooschoolforfool 0 points1 point ago

While I agree, I do know some people who love reading the obituaries in the newspaper.

[–]joke-away -4 points-3 points ago*

If we could compile a list of links to other subreddits about personal stuff we could make a handy multi-reddit out of it, something like this.

[–]VentHatesYou 15 points16 points ago

Man I was really hoping that the subreddit for dead people was /r/ip. That would've been perfect

[–]GrossPig 4 points5 points ago

That's for loud farts only...

[–]PatAunces 2 points3 points ago

r/aves follows that naming convention.

[–]KaylaJo96 15 points16 points ago

Perhaps this is why we don't have a subreddit for apes.

[–]PatAunces 4 points5 points ago

hiyoooo

[–]k3n 0 points1 point ago

You'll never know how thankful I am to finally have this in my collection.

[–]appleflaxen 11 points12 points ago

you also have the option of /r/inmemoryof

[–]zers_is_a_moron 5 points6 points ago

Yeah, how dare you harsh my buzz?

reddit (facebook, and the rest of the internet, etc.) has taken the place of friends/family/etc. These people have nowhere else to go other than in front of the glowing screen they're spending their lives in front of.

If you don't want to part of the reddit community, then go somewhere else. There's a million sites full of rage comics, cat pictures, etc. with no hint of community, so you can eat your fill and not have to be bothered with other people's feelings.

[–]TophatMcMonocle 63 points64 points ago

I never understand these "See here now, I'm the boss of Reddit and from now on..." posts. Usually I just hide them, but this might bear repeating.

Things like that rise to where you see them, because lots of other Redditors want to see them, so they're upvoted.

You can't change the way people use Reddit. You can only change the way YOU see Reddit by hiding links you don't like, managing your subreddits, and to a small degree by up or downvoting.

[–]suninabox 22 points23 points ago

You're not meant to upvote things just because you like them, or agree with them are sympathetic to them.

Read up on Rediquette.

"my dad/cat/friend just died" is not news, and its not interesting.

It can easily be fit into a subreddit, and there are already subreddits that exist to cater that kind of thing.

This is no different than if someone kept upvoting political rants to r/self, it might happen occasionally, but when it does it should be downvoted for not being put in the right place.

It abuses the entire subreddit to say "everyone just post and upvote where they like". If that's the case there's no point in subreddits. Subreddits are there so you can tailor your experience and not have to pay attention to shit you don't care about.

r/aww and pictures of cats/dogs/babies is another issue.

[–]fade_like_a_sigh 6 points7 points ago

I think the problem at hand is that Reddit has such a huge amount of users now, things like this are impossible to control.

The influx of Digg members cannot have helped as Ups and Downs were very much "like" and "dislike" on Digg.

It's nice to still think Rediquette is possible in a large community but you can't tell people not to up vote stuff because they're going to say "fuck you" and up vote it anyway. That's their choice, they thought it was valuable and there isn't a damn thing you can do about that.

Basically, there is next to nothing you can do about this other than just hiding the posts. You simply can't boss millions of people around. If somebody's posting a picture of their deceased relative in /r/pics, that post is totally fair as it's a picture, the title is just flavour text.

[–]suninabox 3 points4 points ago

I think the problem at hand is that Reddit has such a huge amount of users now, things like this are impossible to control.

Give me total control of Reddit, and 500 stout Yeomen of noble birth and I'll show you what is possible.

[–]fade_like_a_sigh 0 points1 point ago

Reddit <Under New Management>

[–]RobotBuddha 2 points3 points ago

my dad/cat/friend just died" is not news, and its not interesting

Subjective. I don't find it such, you don't, some do.

[–]Oryx -1 points0 points ago

It abuses the entire subreddit to say "everyone just post and upvote where they like".

You are pretty much describing r/wtf. That subreddit is full of dumb-ass memes and non-wtf posts these days. Apparently it has no mods.

[–]suninabox 4 points5 points ago

Some subs are better policed than others, some subs have better behaved members than others.

You rarely get cat pics in r/politics, and you rarely get political rants in r/gonewild. Some of these things naturally work out okay and sometimes someone needs to step in.

[–]Shaper_pmp 0 points1 point ago

Recognise that you're talking about two intensively-moderated communities there. The one thing they're not is a shining example of high-quality content achieved exclusively via community voting

[–]Ovuus 0 points1 point ago

r/askscience is actually pretty clean... The mods came down heavy for a while and it has kept most of the riff-raff out. However, every once in a while, someone tries to start pun threads. Although they do tend to get downvoted into oblivion.

[–]tsahandjob 0 points1 point ago

or /r/askreddit which is now "hey check out my cool story do you have a similar one?" and maybe 1/10 posts on the front page is a legitimate question.

[–]Kirby54925 -5 points-4 points ago

Eh, screw Reddiquette. Apart from a handful of subreddits where it should apply, I really think it's a stupid policy to adopt. Think the story is interesting even though it's not exactly germane to the subreddit? Fuck yeah I'm upvoting that shit! If I disagree with your comment, will I downvote you? Of course I will! Freedom is awesome.

[–]suninabox 0 points1 point ago

Freedom is awesome.

However just because you have freedom, doesn't mean you should use that freedom to be a douche.

[–]bonix 3 points4 points ago

Do people really want to see these kinds of posts or do they just up vote because they are sympathetic? I personally don't like my Reddit front page looking like the obituaries in the newspaper (OK that was a slight exaggeration)

[–]DrDodgy 1 point2 points ago

Half the time, I upvote to clear the post off my page. It's easier than clicking hide.

[–]Shaper_pmp 2 points3 points ago

Congratulations: you are part of the problem.

[–]DrDodgy 1 point2 points ago

Yep. But if I'm to be brutally honest, I do downvote blatant calls for sympathy and karma whores.

[–]slimkwik[S] 4 points5 points ago

I'm certainly not "the boss of reddit" Im just making a suggestion to help people who maybe did not know any better.

[–]frenger 4 points5 points ago

I think that's fair enough

[–]tooschoolforfool 3 points4 points ago

Bring out your dead!

[–]Sallix 10 points11 points ago

But then how am I supposed to cash my loved ones in for karma?

[–]attn2risky 0 points1 point ago

I disagree. I come to Reddit to see news, funny memes, comics, stories, etc. I stay on Reddit because of the comments, and more importantly, the feel of community.

If people are reaching out for support, or want to share a story (whether that be sad or funny, heartbreaking or uplifting) I will take the time to read it - because it's the feeling of having people out there who will listen to you, or help you, or offer support or advice, that makes Reddit what it is. I've never experienced that anywhere else on the internet. And it's why I will take the time to read about people's loved ones who are gone, or missing, or have been born into this world. This is a community; not an RSS feed.

[–]Kerdek 1 point2 points ago

Post all the loved ones?

[–]mcmUK 1 point2 points ago

Please restrict your grieving to the designated bereavement zones.

[–]GreatBigPig 1 point2 points ago

I agree. I come to /r/pets to enjoy photos, stories, etc. I hate reading about someone's loss. Lately I have been thinking of unsubscribing due to all those that post their loss.

I get it, loss sucks. Does posting an RIP here really help? If so, is it worth bringing down the majority of us?

[–]Carnephex -3 points-2 points ago

No.

"A place to put self-posts for discussion, questions, or anything else you like."

So I'll post about my friend who had his head blown off, or my father who died of liver failure or my brother driving drunk and you'll fucking like it or GTFO.

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