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[–]producer35 5 points6 points ago*

In case you happen to be our son: we're sorry. We weren't as enlightened then as we are now. If we had it to do over, you would still have your foreskin.

[–]MrLeomonkey07 0 points1 point ago

This is exactly what my mother told me. I don't really blame my parents, they bowed to what they thought was the prevailing medical wisdom. I'm just angry that I didn't get to choose!

[–]TreeBits 6 points7 points ago

Maybe you could force them to pay for a skin graft. Sue their asses.

[–]Jorand 4 points5 points ago

when foregen.org gets results, have them cover the costs of the procedure?

[–]mrrp 5 points6 points ago

They most likely were not even aware they had a choice in the matter. Fewer than 5 years ago my brother had a baby boy. While they were still in the hospital a nurse came in and made ready to take the lad out of the room. He (my brother) asked where they were headed, and the nurse informed him it was circumcision time. Yikes! Close call.

It was probably much the same when you were born. That's just the way it was, and they were probably never given any information nor asked for their permission.

[–]Gemini4t[S] 8 points9 points ago

False. My parents are deeply religious and deliberately had me circumcised.

[–]mrrp 4 points5 points ago

Well then, the only course of action is to cut the rest off, cut into chunks, and make a stir fry meal for them. When they're done eating, give them fortune cookies that say "You took my foreskin, now you've eaten the rest" and then show them the bloody stump. When they're done puking you pick up your suitcase and leave the country for a monastic life somewhere remote, never to contact them again. They'll spend the rest of their lives submerged in sorrow and regret for the great injustice they did to you as an infant, as is their lot.

[–]wufoo2 1 point2 points ago

So, they did it with good intentions, and on the advice of people they trusted. I'm sorry that happened.

You can't undo it, and I'm guessing they're well past childbearing years. So perhaps the best result of your confrontation would be that they counsel other potential (younger) parents against it. Work with that end in mind, and perhaps the proper means will come to you.

[–]zBriGuy 1 point2 points ago

I once asked my mother about it and she said that she was doing what she thought was best at the time. I know she loves me and wouldn't have knowingly done something that she thought was harmful (even though we know of course how much harm it actually is.)

What was I supposed to say to her at that point? I'm sure you've made mistakes too thinking that they were good ideas at the time. I think you should pick your battles and not push this too hard. Instead, do your best to educate those around you so that they don't do the same thing to their children.

[–]Olathe 0 points1 point ago

You can still talk about the harm it caused you. If they care, they should be willing to hear about it and help you with it.

[–]wintertash 1 point2 points ago

You have every right to bring up how you feel about it. Try to remember that they were doing what their beliefs taught was right, and educate them some on the functions of a foreskin, and put it in the context of consent and FGM. Don't expect them to be understanding or agreeable (I've been pretty active in the intactivist movement, and my parents still insist not only that they were right to have me cut, but that it should be universal, even though my own circumcision was also religiously motivated).

If it was a Jewish circumcision, have some information, both practical and theological, ready on the Brit Shalom movement and both Rabbi Lawrence Hoffman's "Covenant of Blood" and Leonard Glick MD PhD's "Marked In Your Flesh"

I know that discussing things within their religious context is counter-intuitive to an atheist, but otherwise you're just going to run smack into their "our religion says so, so you're wrong" argument (as I have, though I am neither Jewish anymore, nor atheist). When you point out that that is not exactly the case, you have a better leg to stand on.

If your circumcision was due to Muslim religious beliefs, there is good theologic info out there on the many Muslim sects that don't circumcise, and the debate within Islam over whether it should be required or not, I just don't have them easily at hand.

[–]Leichenschrei 2 points3 points ago

LOL @ at the defensive American or religious mutilated people ITT.

[–]PerfectFaro 3 points4 points ago

If this is really something that you feel outraged about, your best bet is probably to murder them with shotguns.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points ago

It really is the only path to resolution.

[–]kencabbit 3 points4 points ago

Why? They can't uncircumcise you and it was probably SOP when you were born.

[–]Gemini4t[S] 7 points8 points ago

And if female genital mutilation was SOP, you don't think anyone should feel anger about being violated?

[–]kencabbit 4 points5 points ago

Be angry, sure. But when circumcision is extremely common, viewed as medically preferable and not mutilation (and presented as such by doctors) I don't blame my parents for having the procedure done. I blame a lot of other things, but not my parents.

[–]someoneelsesusername 1 point2 points ago

I'd like to know what you wish to gain from this.

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[–]Gemini4t[S] 4 points5 points ago

About being mutilated when I didn't even have the capacity to understand, accept, or protest?

[–]mikesteane 1 point2 points ago

Babies being circumcised definitely do protest.

[–]coalsong 0 points1 point ago

Walk up to your dad with a kitchen knife and say 'EYE FOR AN EYE LIKE IN THE BIBLE'.

No, but I'd first ask you if you really have to have to confront them about it. It may just create tension between you, but if it'll be a load off your back, by all means.

[–]FlutterDash00 0 points1 point ago

Umm...........have you considered murder? I mean- WHAT?!? MURDER YOUR OWN PARE-... THAT IS TERRIBLE, SIR!!! Feel shame. ahem

[–]Olathe 0 points1 point ago

It doesn't particularly matter whether they have an excuse or not. Talk to them about the effects it has had on you, including anger and so on. See if they really care about the effects or if they think excuses will shut you up about the effects.

[–]mildly_competent -3 points-2 points ago

Yeah, it's kind of done and over with. It's not like you're going to get your dick tip back, and they were doing what they thought was best for you. Unless you have permanent ED or something, I'd probably just let it drop. And unless you can prove entirely that the ED is a result of the dick tip removal, it's still not worth ruining a relationship with your family.

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[–]mildly_competent 1 point2 points ago

Touche.