The body hair problem.

hlkolaya · 3 months

I don't think body hair is the problem that everyone makes it out to be- in reality, people have hair (surprise!). The way human bodies are represented in the media- especially women and especially in porn is skewing our perception. Too many men have an idea of what women "should" look like that's not even close to the diversity of real women.

You're not being whiny- yours is a very real issue and it's hammered into women just as hard as some of the other beauty ideals out there like big breasts, tiny waists, or perfect skin. Find a guy that appreciates your body and has the knowledge or experience to know that bodies come in all different forms- including hairy.

wildhorses · 3 months

lots of people don't have problems with body hair! hopefully you'll find some of them :) i think it's really odd to comment on someone else's body hair though, it's not someone else's business. i rarely shave anything, but when i was single and had one night stand with less smart and more sexist/immature guys i often shaved just to avoid that awkward feeling. on the other hand, had a conversation about it with some friends who both said "yeah, but what is he going to do about it if you're hairy? get up and leave?". that raises a good point. a little bit of body hair usually doesn't change the level of attraction that much. dated a very gender role conformist kinda guy for a while who complained a lot about me not shaving my legs or under my armpits. i didn't feel like shaving so i didn't, he still wanted to sex me. i just wasn't his perfect ideal woman, but on the other hand, he wasn't the most perfect person i've ever slept with.

fakeycakes · 3 months

OP, I probably understand what you're feeling just as much as (if not more than) you do. I'm East Indian and have hair EVERYWHERE. When I wear skirts or shorts, I shave my legs, because I like just not having to worry about it out in public. Sometimes, when I feel like I have the time, I will shave my arms, but usually, I just leave the hair there. Seeing that other women at my university have hair on their arms, too, makes me feel better. The only difference between myself and them is that their hair is lighter and harder to see. Why should I (or you) have to do MORE work to appear beautiful, when the only thing different about us is the color of our hair?

I am dating a guy who understands that what I do to become smooth and hairless sometimes (taking care of my stomach, back, between-breasts, legs, arms, armpits, nether-regions, etc.) is a LOT of work. After figuring this out (or rather, after being told this very firmly by me), he happily told me he would rather spend that time with me, his beautiful gf, than have me waste it on trying to look like something I'm not.

Guys like that DO exist, and you WILL find them. I don't know how old you are, but the more mature the people around you get, the less you'll have to worry about being judged. You were born with DNA that gave you more body hair than most, and there is nothing you can do to make that untrue. All you can do is learn to live in the body you were put in -- the beautiful body that has carried you through every significant moment in your life. Compassionate, mature, and, well, classy people will have no problem loving you, no matter what your physical differences, and neither should you.

honeyinthelion · 3 months

If you don't want to suffer from body hair anymore, especially in areas like lower back, chest, look into electrolysis. I have excessive hair growth on my face, neck, chest, arms, inner thights, lower back, a peach fuzz on my butt. I used to cry about it every single day. I have black, thick, terminal hair growth on parts of my body where most girls either have no hair or very soft vellus hair that doesn't show. I have gotten very, very good at hiding it from the general public and even from lovers. But last year I started getting electrolysis and I have seen DRASTIC results. It was very bad on my chin, now not a single hair grows there. Nothing. Still working on other parts of my body but my electrologist assures me that in time I will be hair free. It is slightly painful and sometimes expensive, depending on the length of my appointment, but worth it, worth it, worth it. I understand the pain of being a hair girl in a hair-free world, but electrolysis will help you for sure, I promise.

honeyinthelion · 3 months

Addendum, any guy who hassles you about your pubic hair is a waste of your time, unlike some of the cosmetically distressing hair on other parts of your body, your pubic hair is there for a damn good reason, to keep you clean and healthy, and if you want it there keep it there, unapologetically. Try getting most of these same guys to scrape a razor over their precious sacks and see whether they agree.

mstrandquist8 · 3 months

get a brazilian wax. 45 minutes and you're good for at least 2 weeks. It always boosts my confidence when I have it done!

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