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[–]Sazrak 1 point2 points ago

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I think, based on what I've read on game-theory so far, that humans in general are reciprocal. That is, we are wired to reciprocate (and for that matter, even emulate) the behavior that we observe and are exposed to.

Of course, none of us operate solely on the platform of Tit-For-Tat, but in general, most of us use only slightly modified variations of the theme. You will treat someone nicely if they treat you nicely, and if they hurt you, you will try to hurt them back. When someone does something nice to you, you might feel indebted, while if someone wrongs you you might want revenge. On a level playing field, Tit-For-Tat is a proven tactic.

Of course, it's not a given that the playing field is always level. Every now and then an outside factor skews it in favor of some other tactic, or even just some specific variation of the regular one, and that becomes prevalent for a while. Eventually we learn to answer that new tactic in kind, the playing field adjusts to the bias, and becomes level once more.

Since co-operation is the outcome that has the highest net profitability for all involved parties, I think that is the direction we are moving in. The more level the playing field becomes, the more collaborative we'll get.

[–]harsesus 0 points1 point ago

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not if I stab the motherfucker

[–]duke777 0 points1 point ago

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Not so much. Ever heard of the dark triad?

[–]Kevat 0 points1 point ago

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There is no way that's true. Kinder people have a disadvantage and thats for sure. Take it from a nice guy, we ALWAYS finish last. Knowing that we will finish last, we can't change who we are; we're too nice to change. If that's not an evolutionary disadvantage, I don't know what is.

[–]ClassicThunder 0 points1 point ago

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First of all there is a difference between being nice and being a pussy or being an apologist.

I'm a nice guy and I'm used to finishing first, admittedly being nice as little impact on performance for soccer or school, the only two things care about, but I would say it has helped me in relationships also. Whatever anyone says the are a lot of girls who like nice guys. A lot of guys just are to shallow to find nice girls.

As a nice guy fellow programmers here at Tech have no problem talking to me about developments, assisting me, or even joining in on a large project. So I'd say being a nice guy has helped me at school and as a programmer.

So in conclusion being nice is an asset as long as you're not a pushover. Hell I even had a guy I did some work for free give me a car. Not a great car but I still use it.

[–]cyantist 0 points1 point ago

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This isn't nearly absolute, but I believe freethinkers will garner more respect as they demonstrate compassion for non-freethinking others.

One of the natural social calls of freethinking is to spread the principle philosophy of basing belief and behavior on rational thought, logic and science.

One of the ways I try to do this is by being kind in daily life and also explaining myself by expressing rationality for my actions, especially as others express surprise at them.

One of the things I've discovered is that people will rarely take umbrellas from your hand, even if they have a much better use for them (protecting their children and groceries from the rain as they race to get home). (Also I read this article a couple days ago.. but my personal experiences are from much prior.)

But this might be a strong anti-kindness cultural influence from the context of embedded and personal capitalism. People don't want to be indebted to others, socially maybe, or financially especially.

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[–]Sazrak 0 points1 point ago

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On the contrary, I think we are getting better at cooperation. Wars, though certainly not altruistic in nature, are still a collaborative effort on both sides and the side on which the participants cooperate on the largest scale and in the most effective way is still going to win. For that matter, making an army is generally contingent upon finding someone who is willing to die for their countrymen.